What is the best advise you have ever received?

The Best Advise I ever have was about love, I always thought that love was about desire, being with someone, holding someone, feeling someone. But it isn't necessarily. Love can come in lots of different ways and lots of different guises.That's the British artist Tracey Emin in a May 2012 BBC interview. She's talking about her experience as a single woman artist nearing 50, but it's a great reminder for all of us, no matter our relationship status or age. Not only can love be found everywhere -- in an idea, an experience, a lover, a friend, etc... but it's like compound interest: the more you have the more you get. The trick is being open. As Emily Dickinson wrote, "The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience.

And what I learn about that advise is "Treat yourself like a prize." The strange part is: I can no longer remember who first passed on the wisdom. In my mind, it's some sexy woman-of-a-certain age with five ex-husbands, smoking a Virginia Slim 100. But the real identity is lost to me. Even so, the advice has stuck in my head all these years, and I still recite it to single friends who seem to have trouble making romantic relationships stick.The point is not that you should act arrogantly or as if entitled, but that, if you act as if you have value in the world, others are more likely to treat you that way. In the hetero world, this means letting the guy pursue you. Which is to say, not calling too much or being too accommodating to his needs. Conversely, if he fails to call, hold your head high and walk away. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I still think that, in the early days of a relationship, the onus falls on the opposite sex.